When should you follow up for that second date?

May 07, 2021

Many Americans pressed pause on in-person dates this past year. But with cities relaxing regulations, vaccinations being administered & hope being restored, more Americans are returning to their regular date routines every day. And it feels sooo good. That said, not even a pandemic could put to bed some of those age-old dating questions.

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With a background in marketing & performing arts, Sean has extensive insight on how to present your best self, whether in front of a crowd or on a first date. As a veteran Dating Expert, he works tirelessly to ensure everyone is on a path to relationship success.

Q: When should I expect someone to follow up for a second date?

A: It’s important to keep in mind that everyone has different ideas of what a perfect first date looks like. I always say that if you enjoyed the first date, then you should bring up the idea of a second date 24 hours after your first to see what they say. If you’re waiting for the other person to follow up for a second date, then I would be patient & wait about 3 to 5 days. If they still haven’t brought it up, take the initiative & bring it up yourself so you know whether or not it will work out.

Q: I often feel like a date goes well, but don’t hear anything after. What signals should I look for to confirm they’re feeling the same way?

A:  Exchanging laughter, smiles & stories is always a good sign. If they bring up future plans with you, that’s another reassuring sign that they’re thinking ahead. Remember, communication is key. If you don’t hear anything after the date, take the initiative to follow up & ask if they would be open to a second date. This is always better than waiting around and wondering.

Q:  I’m waiting for that “when you know, you know” moment after a first date & not having it. Why?

A: I totally get what you mean! First dates aren’t always going to be like the movies, so you have to set realistic expectations. Also understand that your date may be nervous or have other things going on in their life. Give them the benefit of the doubt. If you didn’t have that “when you know, you know” moment but you feel like there is potential, maybe that second date will turn things around. If you still haven’t had that moment, then it’s okay to search for someone else.