The Match.com Single in America Study 2011

been divorced since 99.love being my boss.the one thing that all women,all,have in common.at least the ones i have met.the want me to plan the entertainment,pay for,and them be the first i ask to enjoy it.every woman that i asked attend a outing never held my hand for my trouble.recently i had a experience that freaked me out and pissed me off.a lady i have known for almost 4 decades,said,i see myself as the one you talk to about some other woman,thats all.but when i told her was like the rest of them,same mentallity,she said,you only heard friend.well hells bells thats what she said.now she can be on her way.being used and abused is over.i got her to admit it first,strange,if she had kissed me like she used to,i would have had a hook in my mouth. she wanted no committment just the fun at my expense.isn’t this called dating?where i come from it is.

Oh I also wanted to add that I totally agree with what Jim said about the ratio of men to women on the subject of unemployment.

While the results of the survey may seem to be a surprise they are not accurate or honest. Guys will always say that looks are not important so that they do not appear to be shallow, but they will always look at a pretty woman. Religious background is very important especially after the couple has children, marrying outside of faith is a very bad idea. What the survey identifies as “love” is not what real love is, which is best exemplified in a relationship as what one can give to the other, not what one can get from the other. Lasting relationships are built on giving not taking. Office romances are very bad as are any romance that evolve inside a group setting where both people are physically present all the time. When the romance goes bad it hurts the entire dynamic of the group and both of the people will be uncomfortable whenever the other is present. If one partner is financially destitute that will also hurt the relationship when the reality of life sets in. Dating is fun and that is why so many women make horrible choices only to realize that life is not just about fun. The real keys to a lasting relationship are built over time, with no premarital sex, shared faith, lifestyles and cultural affinities. Is Ms. Fisher happily married or divorced?

Guys – on behalf of women everywhere, thanks for your posts. Your insight is always valuable, and appreciated!!!

Steve, you asked: “why is it that women always try to find men making MORE money than they are?”

While I don’t deny that “gold-diggers” do exist, there is an alternate, more well-intentioned explanation worth considering. Many women who have achieved financial independence still yearn for a man who makes them feel like a woman, regardless of that man’s income level. Similarly, most men become attracted to women who make them feel like a man. In many cases, despite what men might say at the outset, they find being with a woman who makes more money than them emasculating. This realization then manifests itself in the relationship in various ways, most of which are unpleasant for the woman.

So…the next time you come across a woman who is looking for a man who earns more than her…why not just ask her what her reasons are? Whatever they are, she is entitled to them, but you never know – you may just be pleasantly surprised.

Happy dating!

Stacie
Inspiring a Love Movement…

I’ve been single for, well, going on 30 years now. Friends have been on my case to try internet dating, and I just don’t feel like it would work for me. I’m a firm believer in chemistry and attraction. I think the reason divorce has become so common is because people get married for the wrong reasons. Someone may be ‘good for you on paper,’ but I don’t believe that always makes for a good match. Anyway – I decided to try it just to see what it’s like, and say that I have. I’m having fun with it by keeping a blog at http://www.theperpetualbachelorette.wordpress.com. Feel free to check it out and comment!

Awesome blog post! Pretty carry out along with depth information and facts. That?s exactly what i needed! Well done!

I do wonder how much honesty is expressed from the participants when they complete such a survey? I understand that they are a valuable insight into the singles and dating scene of the modern era, yet still a bit of me wishes we could see a statistic of how many men and women fib a little (or at least, overexagerate slightly,) when submitting their answers

Its quite a few replys and I’d love to read them all but sometimes they get a little overwhelming and frustrating. It’s hard to listen to the sentiments of the heart of people and not judge or criticize. Unless you know the person or heart of them it is difficult to understand the comments because the written word almost always takes away the true meaning of the message. My heart goes out to us [singles], our past experiences that determine our present and future beliefs and behaviors. I’ve wanted to give love and be loved and hold hands and be courteous and offer to pay the bill (so he’d see I’m not selfish), and buy him flowers (too). I’ve experienced pulling back because he has so many more female friends besides me when I wanted him to see that (why not JUST me). I’ve experienced years of PATIENCE and LISTENING to them talk about girl’FRIENDS’, and PAST wives and bad kids, and bankruptcies, and offered ‘how to’ and ‘what to’ with KINDNESS and patience and a listening ear and never said, I’M TIRED OF HEARING THIS GARBAGE’ but needed him to know, ” I’m here for you.” My heart goes out to all of the men (since that’s what I see mostly on here). I’m sorry that we’ve led you to beat us up (verbally) and beat us down because of what other women have done. I apologize that some haven’t given you the chance and haven’t been all that you needed them to be; or that they are shallow and are into appearance and/or jobs or other material things. Those too are all the things that you seek my friends. I hope that you find what you seek, but be patient, have a listening ear, find what things that make her happy and verbalize those things that make you happy. There’s got to be a happy medium somewhere. My heart loves you all. Be blessed. With a kind heart and sincere spirit,
Dorothy