More on Myths About Marriage from SIA 3

Sex and romance don’t end at the alter. 41% of married couples had sex at least once a week in 2012. Married people also think about sex more frequently than singles; 76% of marrieds vs. 72% of singles think about sex at least once a week or more – including married women (65% vs. 56% of single women).

  • A sex perk of marriage, more orgasms. 47% of married people achieve orgasm 91-100% of the time vs. 38% of singles.
  • ‘Romantic love survives long-term. Over 80% of married men and women would marry the same person again; and 76% married men and 73% women are very much in love with their current spouse (8-10 on a scale of 10 being “deeply in love”).
  • Married gays and lesbians are more likely to want to marry the same person again as heterosexual married couples. 95% of gays and 87% of lesbians reported that they would marry the same person again, compared to 81% of heterosexual singles.

Singles work harder than married men and women to build a good sex life with a partner. Single men (66%) and single women (68%) are more likely to talk out intimacy concerns versus 62% of married men and 59% of married women. Close to 20% of married women (vs. 11% of single women) would do nothing if not satisfied with their sexual relationship?

Myth: Married people are bored with each other; romance vanishes over time. False.

Married people are still very much in love with their partners.

  • 47% of married couples still feel intense romantic love
  • In general, more married people approve of PDA than singles
  • More married people approve of kissing/making out in public than singles (69% vs. 53% of singles)
  • More married people approve of cuddling public than singles (85% vs. 74% of singles)
  • More married people approve of having arms around each other in public than singles (93% vs. 89% of singles)
  • Relationship attitudes between marrieds and singles are very similar across issues, with one glaring exception: they do not see eye-to-eye on happy relationships being more important than jobs or careers.
  • Married men and married women said that having a happy relationship is more important to them then their job/career (79% and 81%), versus 53% of single men and 51% of single women.

Wedlock/Padlock? Nope. Singles and married people have remarkably similar social lives. 52% of singles and 46% of married people go out 1-3 times a week; 78% or married people and over half of single people (55%) prepare home-cooked meals on a typical weeknight. Overall, having an independent schedule is the only significant thing married people miss about single life.

Myth:  Your personal life changes when you get married.  False…with a few exceptions. 

Where are they similar?      

TV Watching: Top Shows:  They watch the same TV shows…except reality TV

  • Singles: Dramas (54%), Sitcoms (49%), News (40%)
  • Married: Dramas (58%), Sitcoms (51%), News (53%)
  • Married people watch more reality TV (31% vs. 27% of singles)

Disposable Income: Singles and marrieds spend their money similarly

  • Singles: Clothes, personal entertainment, dining out
  • Married: Clothes, dining out, leisure travel/personal entertainment
  • More married people spend money on electronics than singles (29% spend extra income on gadgets vs. 27% of singles)

Retirement Concerns: Singles and marrieds are equally concerned about retirement

  • Singles are just as concerned about retiring as marrieds (53% of singles and 55% of marrieds are stressed about retiring).

Where are they different?

Free Time:  Singles spend their time differently than marrieds

  • Singles: Watch TV (41%), Browse the Internet (30%), spend time with family (25%) Catch up with friends (17%)
  • Married: Spend time with family (43%), Watch TV (34%), Read a book (22%)
  • More singles are “night persons” than married people, while more married people are “morning persons”

Myth:  Singles work harder at their career. False.

Married people work more overtime than single people (33% vs. 26% singles)

  • Married men work more than single men, single women, or married women (43% married men work over 40 hours in a week compared to 29% of single men, 24% of single women and 22% of married women)
  • Married people are slightly more satisfied with their jobs than singles (48% vs. 43%); however the majority of both groups consider their job as something that just pays the bills (57% singles and 53% of marrieds) versus something they really enjoy doing.

Myth: Singles don’t believe in marriage. False.

Singles are optimistic about marriage.

  • 9/10 of singles are optimistic about marriage
  • Singles’ optimism about marriage has increased over the last 3 years (2012: 90%, 2011: 78%, 2010: 76%).

Myth:  Singles Think Married Life is Boring. False.

Singles think married people have just as much sex, have just as interesting social lives and are just as career-minded as themselves

  • 63% of singles think married people have social lives that are interesting or similar to their own
  • 57% of singles think married people have more or the same amount of sex than singles do
  • 69% of singles think married people are more or equally as career-minded as singles

Myth:  Married people take pity on singles.  False.

Married people think singles have more friends, more sex, lead exciting and interesting social lives, work hard to stay in shape and are more career-minded.

  • 68% of married people think singles have more or the same amount of friends as married people do
  • Only 17% of married people believe singles have less interesting social lives than married people
  • 86% of married people think singles work harder or the same amount as married people to keep in shape
  • 71% of married people think singles are more or equally as career-minded as married people

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